Dedicated to SS501 4D Leader Kim Hyun Joong

[Article] The Many Loves of Kim Hyun Joong-Reel and Real

By : aprilstarr 

Does your heart feel a pinch or even a stab of pain when you read about Kim Hyun Joong’s own admission of having fallen in love not once but many times?

You are not alone.

But why? Is it because you had no inkling whatsover that this warm blooded, true to life in the flesh male at the prime of his youth was taken at some point? Or how could he be so good in hiding or masking the relationships he had? There was a time fans were frantic in searching for clues as to who were his past loves. Was the girl the one pictured close to him that circulated in the net before he became famous and popular his girlfriend? Was there something between him and his leading ladies that launched many ships among fans? Who was it he said he had a three year relationship while being in the same company? Who was it that was supposed to be one of the cause of his tears while in a concert? And other rumors fluttering around like butterflies and bees here and there.

Yes,yes. We want to know. Sometimes we want to give our nod or show displeasure if we did not approve. But how could we know when he himself admitted his former company prohibited them from talking about their love life. Nevertheless, interviewers in variety programs, talk shows and for magazine articles could not help but ask him just the same.

It was pretty safe for Hyun Joong to reveal his lovelife in the past tense. And he is also ready to jump the gun saying he has no time now for romance given his work schedule. Really, Hyun Joong? I’ll remember that!

Is it possible that your pain as a fan is due to your having fallen in love with him? Or is it infatuation, a crush because of his good looks, or other varying degrees of emotional connections because celebrities are more attractive, say even exotic than the average person? Did he remind you of someone you once knew or does he represent all the idealized images of the Perfect One? Perhaps he represent to you someone influential or significant, like an old comfortable pillow or a blanket ,you don’t want to let it go.

But Hyun Joong having fallen in love , he will fall in love again. It means someday you will really have to let him go to the arms of the woman he loves. It may be a “bomb”now as one headliner stated recently as admirers of stars like him become agitated. A very real fear he will be “stolen” from them. Some fans candidly admitted they are not ready to give him up.

Have you then somewhat sorted out your feelings, how about his? Isn’t it healthy for him to have fallen in love? Would it not be surprising if he had denied not having given in to that basic of human emotion? To love and be loved,with all that warm, happy, intense feeling. To enjoy holding hands with the beloved, in a crowd that does not matter.To exchange loving looks, steal kisses, sipping colas under the sun but hidden by a conniving huge umbrella. The ultimate kilig.

He is not going to stay the beautiful star forever, not the idealized image in the spotlight he himself said will eventually fade away. But I’m sure he’d like to also look back with no regrets to those times of his life even if they were like faded photographs.

But to you, to all of us,he is the beautiful person inside out you’d like to remember having admired in your life. And then believe him as he often said his fans, are also the love of his life.


16 responses

  1. Ruby

    I wish i could just see kim even if it’s for a minute cos i really love his movies. 08142183425

    Saturday, March 15, 2014 at 10:35 pm

  2. kalaivani

    kim hyun joong shi, ode manida …chal china so? dangshineun nal mollahajiman nal yogi kitarigo isso….
    당신은 날 몰라하지만 난 여기 당신을 기다리고있어
    nal ijji marayeo…onul nae maemen sangcheorel…….내 마음은 상처를

    Thursday, November 22, 2012 at 9:26 am

  3. georgette

    achim hyun joong see the perfect girl of him
    and hyun joong dont give up

    me always you beside and many more fans

    love ya

    Sunday, September 23, 2012 at 7:13 pm

  4. wow your article is great
    I hope one day he meet his last love to forget his bad exprience
    i know he still think about his first love someday and he miss him haowever he used to be away from her

    Wednesday, September 5, 2012 at 10:50 am

  5. tiara

    wooow…u wrote good article….i am fan of KHJ since WGM until now…i think KHJ is amazing, wierd, some kind can not predictable…but that is make me so idolize him..for his love life i still can not believe that he have many lovers..seem he only love one person deeply once forever….somehow i dream that he will have happily marriage with hwang bo..hope so.

    Tuesday, July 24, 2012 at 11:43 pm

  6. gagan

    if you guys hv realy liked him as yoon ji hoo dn u must remember one of his dialogue “its impossible to know someone completely” one can only just try to know what kind of person he/she is…………………so except kim hyun joong, no one in the world can know about what he originaly is………………….

    Friday, May 25, 2012 at 3:29 am

  7. If ever our Leader KHJ is in love, it is ok with me. He has every right to love someone and be loved back. Nobody should be sad if one of these days KHJ will just admit to the world that he found the right girl for him to marry. And if that time comes, I will be very very happy for him. We as fans should realize that KHJ needs to have his own family. My love for him will never ever change. I will always support him even when gets married and has kids of his own. I guess I will get older supporting him. Goodluck to our beloved leader on his lovelife….

    Monday, March 19, 2012 at 10:27 am

  8. distybug

    My only concern for him is that we always hear people say that as they look back over their lives, they wish they had spent more time with loved ones. He is such a focused entertainer that I wish he had a wonderful lady who could experience this with him to make the time even more meaningful. Still, he has his military duty to serve, so it’s probably not the best time for him to get serious. Love KHJ!!!

    Monday, March 12, 2012 at 10:08 pm

  9. Cagome


    Monday, March 12, 2012 at 3:08 pm

  10. You are right there Noya when you said HJ is a real person but many times how he is perceived depends on the viewer as pengfoo pointed out .If we allow it in our hearts and minds to do what he wants to do and be supportive like what sazs and Allie observed ,to love him unconditionally then all should be well and good. Isn’t that what true fan love ought to be?

    Monday, March 12, 2012 at 7:18 am

    • Noya

      agreed with all.

      Tuesday, March 13, 2012 at 4:36 am

  11. Noya

    thank you Aprilstarr as always a insightfull article. well all you’ve said is true, but is also a true fact HJ is also a real person, not always the public persona that what we all see, so i do hope that he will find his true love and soul mate to share with him his success and his life and to understand and give him the support he needs. it is not an easy task being up there and in the front line. as a fan i will give my support for his public activities, his private life is his and his only and we just have to respect all his choices in the future, of course we all want the best for him (and equal partner to share his life, because he really deserve it).

    Monday, March 12, 2012 at 12:44 am

  12. flowerboy8666

    KHJ is him and his actions; today 2012-march-11, is the first aniversary of The Tsunami, Earthquaker and Nuclear disaster, I need and want to see photo of his participation in the Ceremony of commeration of that painful event.

    Sunday, March 11, 2012 at 11:57 pm

  13. Allie

    As long as he keeps giving me his wonderful music, great performances, great dramas, entertaining and interesting interviews, and those hilarious and engaging variety shows then it’s all good for me because as long as he is happy then I am happy.

    Sunday, March 11, 2012 at 3:27 pm

  14. pengfoo

    When you said ‘exotic’ , I read ‘erotic’. Now I know my mind is playing some tricks.
    Lol, aprilstar, you are suggestive but then again HJ is such an aphrodisiac, isn’t he?

    If he falls in love for real? now?
    I will cry a little, die a little, but I think , then I will let go of my best friend for HJ has become so dear to me, although in all these years there is only one way traffic in our friendship,,,er,,,fanship. He will always be a part of my life, and have my continued support but if he is happy, I will be very happy for him. I actually want that for him.

    I think too, for me, he is also a ‘reel’ love. While I will never downgrade the love I have for HJ, in real and practicall terms, I can accept that he can never be physically there for me. First, consider the logistics, we are countries apart, cultures apart. We have language barriers, we have work schedules, our own mini loves…etc… He will not know me really… sigh.
    But do I ‘love’ HJ ? I do, at least that idea and image of him that I have collected over the years of being his ardent fan and this is the real side of me, I may be thinking from the ‘right ‘ side of my brain here, but from the left , I am head over heels .hehehe.

    Sunday, March 11, 2012 at 11:20 am

  15. sazs

    A very good article from you, again. A sensible among destructive ones I have read in the past weeks. I, myself do not mind if he wants to spend time with his loved ones, including the woman of his dream. He knows his glory days will not last forever and the one who will stay with him for good is the one he holds dearly close to his heart. As a fan I will support him regardless what people going to say.

    Sunday, March 11, 2012 at 11:09 am

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