Dedicated to SS501 4D Leader Kim Hyun Joong

[Pexers Write-Ups] Weathering the Storm

Author:  AprilStarr

The gods must be weeping and some have left or changed. The storm is once again here. The dark clouds closing in, the thunder bolts shaking the skies and ground, the lightning seem to be igniting what is in the way with its fearful presence. Personal storms happen, not that we like it to happen. Sometimes we are pushed towards their pathways or the storm simply gathered strengths over our heads. Some experience storms like accidents waiting to happen.

Hyun Joong is not unfamiliar in such settings. He has had setbacks in the past but bounced back from them. Having won over his demons and those coming from others. Maybe wiser after his personal storm had blown over. But it doesn’t mean all personal storms are the same. Their intensities are different, their damages as well as recoveries from them are unique to their circumstances.

It is said we learn after a brief membership in the “outsiderdom” though others call it “post traumatic growth”. One will never be the same again after showing momentary weakness,then regaining back vital signs of living with zest for weathering the storm.

Hyun Joong’s storm is not out of work related failure. He was going on strong in two fronts, no three fronts -singing, acting ,business and in the last of the three plans that are waiting to be executed. It was his private life that exploded to public visibility. His relationship that didn’t work out, the personal gone political.

It was the ugly reality show that didn’t need any playdate to air in a television station. Thanks to media who enthusiastically saw to it the round by round accounts are in print or in the internet. The audience including the hecklers and bashers,trolls and loyal fans/ supporters exchanged blows in cyberspace. It has turned fierce that perhaps (me face palm) the combatants are relegated to the sidelines.

There’s two to tango it is often said. One must have fallen out of step or miss the steps altogether. What if (films roll back please) our major characters settled their issues peacefully like mature adults that they are (hope so).What’s wrong with talks? Okey,tearful goodbyes if you will, but heck no it wasn’t good enough eh? They turned physical instead according to the reports. Now that’s “water under the bridge”. One of them even decided to burn that bridge! Did i say burn not bombed?

Both of the protagonists in this ugly reality show must now weather the storm they created. It is the how the episodes will roll out that makes this reality show riveting and makes people sit at the edge of their seats. Perhaps like the fiction dramas we have our own biases,characters we root for. But in this case, of real person involved, his life and future the impact of which is devastating not only to Hyun Joong but to his supporters of many years through the stages of his career. Those championing the cause of the FACELESS ONE do not have anything at stake except their personal convictions (assuming they are serious about it).

Hyun Joong chose simple statements and the rest with silence as his answers to accusations. Silent waters run deep. While the other party chose the media public address system. In the meantime Hyun Joong goes about his work and fulfill his commitments making his World Tour concerts well attended ones from the reports,pictures and videos that poured in.

While I am not sure at what part of the reality show we are in at the moment (middle, slow down, fast forward to the finale)what I am certain is we are now part of this storm. Already there are fallouts and casualties who couldn’t stand the wind velocity or the rising waters. They have decided to flee and seek the safe, higher grounds. Those that stand by and decided to weather the storm together found new assuring helping hands.

There were those who also helped built Hyun Joong’s Ark. Together with its occupants will find the dry land while the storm eventually trickled down to drops of rains. New sprouts in the still wet soil glistened with the rays of sunshine. As all cycle ends and everything is renewed better than before.

Until the next storm.


12 responses

  1. JAZU


    Monday, September 15, 2014 at 7:53 am

  2. Noya

    What kind of a woman is this little nobody who went out for a few weeks with a celeb and then when he wanted to finish it she start to threaten him and then feeling scorned goes outand destroy him with her lies?? a low life !!

    So many inconsequent so called “evidence” provided, that we as fans can see the dates and the old photos are such a lie.

    I don’t belive for a second that Hj had more feelings for her than maybe enjoyed her company but no love involved here and for sure the period was shorter than she said. The point is that till today she managed to trash his name in the media in SK and she even didn’t provide any evidence to the police as the police said.

    I don’t deny KHJ may not be perfect but in all his years in the showbiz he always been behaving correctly and never been accused of bad behaviour.

    I wish someone will disclose her identity and her lies. Karma is a bitch and hope she will pay for all the damages she done.

    Frankly I hope KHJ will go out ,after all investigations completed, and SUE her and all other trash media that slandered him and his name and infilicted so much pain on him, his family and his Fans. He doesn’t need to apologize, but the media and the little nobody needs to apologize for all the damages!

    Monday, September 15, 2014 at 2:26 am

  3. aprilstarr

    @CAGOME what you are pointing out is the same as “post traumatic growth” that we learn something from our personal crisis. Sometimes even if one is careful not to taint the much taken cared of image something happens out of character.

    But the problem is the media is so focused on one side. Must the celebrity be the bad guy? Just because one is not a celebrity and not a man does it mean one is not capable of provocation,violence and actions beyond simple annoyance or nuisance? What if HJ wasn’t a celebrity would they pay attention to him?

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 6:05 pm

  4. atiq

    This woman is so stupid and so ungrateful. After 2 years time flirting around HJ’s life ( she’s a friend of Hj’s friends ) then she’s succeed in making HJ open his heart to her but then just around 2 months time she started to be a queen control of HJ’s ordinary life. Whats she think of herself?? Your lover is the most famous solo artist in S.Korea n international idol. He’s very busy with his schedules n you don’t hve a heart to understand him. He doesn’t hve so.much time to treat u all the time n he always around beautiful girls since he’s in music business. I can imagined how she was reacting when seeing Hj with other girls. The heck with u, u are just a mental disorder loser!

    We all know how Hj said that if he fell in love with a girl, he will give her everything of him. Poor Hj he met with a wrong girl. Im afraid he feel traumatised with this woman n hve no more interest to fall in love again.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 5:51 pm

  5. Maybe she was hurt but not to the extent she’s claiming. And I am not tossing him because of a moments weakness. Every couple fight with different severity, he accepted his fault and surrendered and apologized for that, never talked ill of her and didn’t reveal her identity even if he could and have the power to. That for me is saying more of his personality than that Jane Doe who continuously harasses him with accusations apart from her police statement.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 11:15 am

  6. phitria

    OMG! I just feel so sad with all of these. How could his personal life which was kept safe, (even henecia) never crossed into it but this A ruin / explode it in a second, brutally!!! I’m so mad thinking how un-respectful this wowan is! I see nothing but hatred in her. Did she think she’s always right bcos she’s, a woman by bringing such issue? I don’t think so. It’s easier for us to understand how fishy this situation is since most of us are women too. Later on we find out blackmailing, then what else…? Indeed A is a snake.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 9:40 am

  7. Very well said Cagome ……………….. This woman doesn’t get what she wanted from HJ and so she makes sure that HJ is ruined in public…. maybe hoping that nobody else will have him ……
    We will never know what the real story is ….. whatever happens in this case I just hope HJ chooses what is best for them both. I don’t want this woman barging back into his life again.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 8:34 am


    Thank Aprilstarr for very special articles.Need a lot to read your point of views.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 3:06 am

  9. Kay

    Lawyers and press are having a field day with this mess. They are the only ones who are profiting. Interesting how Miss A gets to have privacy in all this. What kind of person is so vindictive as to ruin a person for spurned love? I have some sympathy for celebrities. They have to always be on their guard because their persona can be ruined in an instant by those seeking something for themselves. At this point, everyone wants the real facts so they can judge for themselves whether KHJ is the rat bastard as he is portrayed or Miss A is a gold seeker and goaded KHJ into beating her so she can garner notoriety, sympathy and monetary benefit. One thing is clear, the girl was hurt. Was she hurt in self defense, or was she hurt while attacking—or both. Did KHJ receive any bruises? Would have even bothered to record them in some way either through pictures or conversation with someone? I hate all this. I am still in shock. And I hope all is resolved soon. I have too much invested in KHJ as a fan to just toss him aside, but I’m willing to do that if it is found that beneath his beautiful exterior, lies a dark side.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 2:55 am

    • CAGOME

      If Henecia will know who is miss A will kill her.Anyway course of Henecia will find miss A in her snake hole.She will feel snakes in her life too…

      Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 3:08 am

      • CAGOME

        We,entire humanity have dark sides.So what?He not kill people.In korea I saw in many dramas is usual to slap or fight in relationships.If is not usual why even in dramas they have this kind of argues?Is part of style of life to have argues in relations.Some girls are crazy bcs jealousy and want beat man and make scandals.This mis A is a snake.

        Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 3:15 am

  10. CAGOME

    Sometime in life need storm to know how good is in good times and to have more enthusiasm to live in present,to live moment in maxim beauty and meanings.I think Our Only One must choose better when is about love and in what kind of people to have trust.He must be more selective with his girlfriends bcs he is sensible man.He need someone beautiful with beautiful soul,not snakes.I know he know what is good for him but please always to be very wise with love side,Magnetic Leader.

    Sunday, September 14, 2014 at 1:44 am

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